Many people begin the process of changing their habits by focusing on what they want to achieve. This leads us to outcome-based habits. The alternati… - James Clear

With outcome-based habits, the focus is on what you want to achieve. With identity-based habits, the focus is on who you wish to become.

Most of the embarrassing moments of my life happened when I wanted to say no, but ended up saying yes (or saying nothing at all).

Most of the missed opportunities in my life happened when I wanted to say yes, but ended up saying no (or saying nothing at all).

In theory, consistency is about being disciplined, determined, and unwavering.

In practice, consistency is about being adaptable. Don't have much time? Scale it down. Don't have much energy? Do the easy version. Find different ways to show up depending on the circumstances. Let your habits change shape to meet the demands of the day.

Adaptability is the way of consistency.

A little secret:

You don't need the right answer to start. You can start by asking a question. Simply asking, "How can I be a better friend?" or "How can I be a healthy person?" will call forth answers naturally.

In the beginning, just repeating the question is enough.