Survivors do not mourn together. They each mourn alone, even when in the same place. Grief is the most solitary of all feelings. Grief isolates, and every ritual, every gesture, every embrace, is a hopeless effort to break through that isolation.
None of it works. The forms crumble and dissolve.
To face death is to stand alone.

Grief can't be shared. Everyone carries it alone, his own burden, his own way.

Those who really suffer don't form groups, don't go around in a gang. Those who suffer suffer alone.

Guilt and misery shrink, by a natural instinct, from public notice: they court privacy and solitude: and even in their choice of a grave will sometimes sequester themselves from the general population of the churchyard, as if declining to claim fellowship with the great family of man; thus, in a symbolic language universally understood, seeking (in the affecting language of Mr. Wordsworth)

’ Humbly to express
A penitential loneliness.

Grief isolates, and every ritual, every gesture, every embrace, is a hopeless effort to break through that isolation. None of it works. The forms crumble and dissolve. To face death is to stand alone.

I avoided my own friends and acquaintances, yet the loneliness of my existence was insupportable.

solitude is a sad thing, with no heart to which to confide your griefs.

It is better to be alone than in bad company.

Secret griefs are more cruel than public calamities.

Her own misery filled her heart — there was no room in it for other people's sorrow.

Who knows what will happen if I'm alone with my grief.

The grave's a fine and private place,
But none, I think, do there embrace.

Grieving, like being blind, is a strange business; you have to learn how to do it. We seek company in mourning, but after the early bursts of tears, after the praises have been spoken, and the good days remembered, and the lament cried, and the grave closed, there is no company in grief. It is a burden borne alone.

those who have listened do not find it easy to talk; they keep their sorrows and joys to themselves and tell no one.