Extreme Ownership. Leaders must own everything in their world. There is no one else to blame. - Jocko Willink

People are not who you want them to be. Kill your idols. Sure there are things we can learn from people — but people aren’t going to be what you think they are — what they should be. People, even those people you have put up on a pedestal, are going to be faulted, weak, egomaniacal, condescending. They are going to be lazy, entitled, shortsighted. They will not be perfect. Far from it. That’s fine. Learn from their weaknesses. Of course: Learn from their strengths and mimic and copy them in what they do well. But equally as important: Learn from their faults.

You have to detach from those emotions — step back from them a little so they don’t control you. You can do that by taking a deep breath and telling yourself to calm down.

Leaders must always operate with the understanding that they are part of something greater than themselves and their own personal interests.