By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves. Seeking - Robert A. Glover

In reality, the primary paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is nothing more than a big covert contract with life.

When recovering Nice Guys decide they will no longer settle for anything less than good sex, they begin to take responsibility for doing something different. •​They let go of the concept of being a great lover. •​They practice being clear and direct. •​They choose available partners. •​They don't settle for scraps. •​They decide that bad sex is not better than no sex!

In time, they also learn that boundary setting isn’t about getting other people to be different. It’s about getting themselves to be different. If someone is crossing their boundary, it isn’t the other person’s problem; it is theirs.