What we judge/envy/suspect in someone else can guide us to the darkness we have within ourselves. Our envy, impatience, suspicion with someone else tells us something about ourselves. Negative projections and suspicions reflect our own insecurities and get in our way.

As a guru, we think about how our actions impact our partner. A guru offers guidance without judgment, wisdom without ego, love without expectation. Being a guru for your partner doesn’t mean imparting wisdom to them (that sounds unpleasant, at best), but it does require patience, understanding, curiosity, creativity, and self-control.