Mark Manson Quotes

Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it. Most

"If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you - you ex-boyfriend's new Facebook picture, how quickly the batteries die in the TV remote, missing out on yet another two-for-one sale on hand sanitizer- chances are you don't have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that's your real problem. Not the hand sanitizer. Not the TV remote. I once heard an artist say that when a person has no problems, the mind automatically finds a way to invent some. I think what most people - especially educated, pampered middle-class white people - consider "life problems" are really just side effects of not having anything more important to worry about."

يقوم الحب غير الصحي على وجود شخصين يحاولان الهرب من مشكلاتهما عن طريق العواطف والمشاعر تجاه أحدهما الآخر . وبكلمات أخرى، يستخدم كل منهما الآخر مهربًا له . أما الحب الصحي فهو قائم على وجود شخصين يعرف كل منهما مشكلاته ويقر بها ويتعامل معها بمعونة من الشخص الآخر .

La Ley de la Retrocesión”, que presenta la idea de que mientras más persigas el sentirte bien todo el tiempo, más insatisfecho estarás; pues perseguir algo sólo refuerza el hecho de que careces de ello.

Whatever your problems are, the concept is the same: solve problems; be happy. Unfortunately, for many people, life doesn’t feel that simple. That’s because they fuck things up in at least one of two ways: 1. Denial. Some people deny that their problems exist in the first place. And because they deny reality, they must constantly delude or distract themselves from reality. This may make them feel good in the short term, but it leads to a life of insecurity, neuroticism, and emotional repression. 2. Victim Mentality. Some choose to believe that there is nothing they can do to solve their problems, even when they in fact could. Victims seek to blame others for their problems or blame outside circumstances. This may make them feel better in the short term, but it leads to a life of anger, helplessness, and despair.

Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.

إذا أحسست أنك في مواجهة العالم، فإن هنالك احتمالًا حقيقيًا لأن تكون في مواجهة نفسك فقط

And then I realised that each individual gets to decide what is 'enough', and that love can be whatever we let it be.

Ever notice that sometimes when you care less about something, you do better at it? Notice how it’s often the person who is the least invested in the success of something that actually ends up achieving it? Notice how sometimes when you stop giving a fuck, everything seems to fall into place?

Words and appearances are merely a symptom of a greater internal problem.

Learn to sustain the pain you've chosen. When you choose a new value, you are choosing to introduce a new form of pain into your life. Relish it. Savour it. Welcome it with open arms. Then act despite it.

We must all give a fuck about something. To not give a fuck about anything is still to give a fuck about something.

Victims seek to blame others for their problems or blame outside circumstances.

I still thought stuff like this was about reason and evidence, not feelings and values. And values cannot be changed through reason, only through experience.

You say it because you mean it and mean it because you say it.
The more nervous it makes you feel, the better, because it means you're being authentic and making yourself vulnerable.