R. D. Laing Quotes

I cannot experience your experience. You cannot experience my experience. We are both invisible men. All men are invisible to one another. Experience used to be called The Soul. Experience as invisibility of man to man is at the same time more evident than anything. Only experience is evident. Experience is the only evidence. Psychology is the logos of experience. Psychology is the structure of the evidence, and hence psychology is the science of sciences.

I see you, and you see me. I experience you, and you experience me. I see your behaviour. You see my behaviour. But I do not and never have and never will see your experience of me. Just as you cannot "see" my experience of you. My experience of you is not "inside" me. It is simply you, as I experience you. And I do not experience you as inside me. Similarly, I take it that you do not experience me as inside you. "My experience of you" is just another form of words for "you-as-l-experience-you", and "your experience of me" equals "me-as-you-experience-me". Your experience of me is not inside you and my experience of you is not inside me, but your experience of me is invisible to me and my experience of you is invisible to you.

Even facts become fictions without adequate ways of seeing "the facts". We do not need theories so much as the experience that is the source of the theory. We are not satisfied with faith, in the sense of an implausible hypothesis irrationally held: we demand to experience the "evidence". We can see other people's behaviour, but not their experience. This has led some people to insist that psychology has nothing to do with the other person's experience, but only with his behaviour. The other person's behaviour is an experience of mine. My behaviour is an experience of the other. The task of social phenomenology is to relate my experience of the other's behaviour to the other's experience of my behaviour. Its study is the relation between experience and experience: its true field is inter-experience.

Alienation as our present destiny is achieved only by outrageous violence perpetrated by human beings on human beings.

We are all murderers and prostitutes — no matter to what culture, society, class, nation, we belong, no matter how normal, moral, or mature we take ourselves to be. Humanity is estranged from its authentic possibilities. This basic vision prevents us from taking any unequivocal view of the sanity of common sense, or of the madness of the so-called madman. … Our alientation goes to the roots. The realisation of this is the essential springboard for any serious reflection on any aspect of present inter-human life.

Few books today are forgivable. Black on canvas, silence on the screen, an empty white sheet of paper are perhaps feasible. There is little conjunction of truth and social "reality". Around us are pseudo-events, to which we adjust with a false consciousness adapted to see these events as true and real, and even as beautiful. In the society of men the truth resides now less in what things are than in what they are not. Our social realities are so ugly if seen in the light of exiled truth, and beauty is almost no longer possible if it is not a lie. What is to be done? We who are still half alive, living in the often fibrillating heartland of a senescent capitalism — can we do more than reflect the decay around and within us? Can we do more than sing our sad and bitter songs of disillusion and defeat? The requirement of the present, the failure of the past, is the same: to provide a thoroughly self-conscious and self-critical human account of man.

We cannot help but see the person in one way or other and place our constructions or interpretations on "his" behaviour, as soon as we are in a relationship with him.

Existential phenomenology attempts to characterize the nature of a person's experience of his world and himself. It is not so much an attempt to describe particular objects of his experience as to set all particular experiences within the context of his whole being-in-his-world. The mad things said and done by the schizophrenic will remain essentially a closed book if one does not understand their existential context. In describing one way of going mad, I shall try to show that there is a comprehensible transition from the sane schizoid way of being-in-the-world to a psychotic way of being-in-the-world. Although retaining the terms schizoid and schizophrenic for the sane and psychotic positions respectively, I shall not, of course, be using these terms in their usual clinical psychiatric frame of reference, but phenomenologically and existentially.

"هرکس باید بتواند در خاطره خود بازپس بنگرد و مطمئن شود که مادری داشته که وی را دوست می‌داشت؛ یعنی همه موجودیت وی و حتی ادرار و کثیف کردن او را. او باید مطمئن شود که مادرش وی را فقط به خاطر خودش دوست داشته، نه به خاطر آنچه او می‌توانست انجام دهد. در غیر این صورت، او احساس می‌کند که حقی برای وجود داشتن ندارد. او احساس می‌کند که هرگز به دنیا نیامده‌است.

مهم نیست که در زندگی چه اتفاقی برای این شخص رخ می‌دهد و مهم نیست که او چقدر آسیب می‌بیند؛ او همیشه می‌تواند به این (خاطره) بازپس بنگرد و احساس کند که دوست‌داشتنی بوده‌است. او می‌تواند خود را دوست بدارد و در هم شکسته نشود. اگر او نتواند چنین بازگشتی به گذشته داشته‌باشد، در هم شکسته می‌شود.

تو تنها در صورتی می‌توانی درهم‌شکسته شوی که قبلا تکه تکه بوده باشی. تا جایی که خویشتن نوزادی من، هرگز مورد علاقهٔ دیگران نبوده‌است، من تکه تکه بوده‌ام. تو با دوست داشتن من به منزلهٔ یک بچه، مرا به یک کل تبدیل می‌کنی."

(نقل از گزارش‌های یک بیمار اسکیزوفرنیک در مرحلهٔ بهبود- خویشتن از هم گسیخته- صص 276 و 277)

Thus, in the relationship that the self has with itself, one finds a second duality developing whereby the inner self splits to have a sado-masochistic relationship with itself. When this happens, the inner self, which has arisen, we suggested, in the first place as a means of clinging to a precarious sense of identity, begins to lose even what identity it had to begin with.

У нас есть свои тайны и свои потребности, в которых надо признаться. Мы можем вспомнить, как в детстве взрослые были способны видеть нас насквозь и какое это было достижение, когда мы, в страхе и трепете, смогли им впервые солгать! А потом сделать для самих себя открытие, что в определённых отношениях мы безнадёжно одиноки, и узнать, что на нашей собственной территории могут быть отпечатки лишь наших ног.

The behaviour of the patient is to some extent a function of the behaviour of the psychiatrist in the same behavioural field. The standard psychiatric patient is a function of the standard psychiatrist, and of the standard mental hospital.

He: Have you read Tolkien?
Me: No.
He: He's behind a lot of the way young people's minds are working. I can't make head or tail of it.

Chief of R&D for a transworld chemical industry (He) holding forth to R.D Laing (Me) about the infiltration of the 'extreme left wing' into American society [28 January 1973].

A man says he is dead but he is alive. But his 'truth' is that he is dead. He expresses it perhaps in the only way common (i.e. the communal) sense allows him. He means that he is 'really' and quite 'literally' dead, not merely symbolically or 'in a sense' or 'as it were', and is seriously bent on communicating his truth. [...] He either is God, or the Devil, or in hell, estranged from God. When someone says he is an unreal man or that he is dead, in all seriousness, expressing in radical terms the stark truth of his existence as he experiences it, that is - insanity. [...] What is required of us? Understand him? [...] As long as we are sane and he is insane, it will remain so. [...] We have to recognize all the time his distinctiveness and differentness, his separateness and loneliness and despair.

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