Without fail, every single person I guided through the exercise had some combination of these pillars at the center of the ideal future day. Spending time surrounded by loved ones, engaged in activities that create purpose and growth, healthy in mind, body, and spirit.

In a 2018 paper published by Harvard Business School professor Michael Norton, researchers asked a group of millionaires (1) how happy they were on a scale of 1 to 10 and (2) how much more money they would need to get to a 10 on the happiness scale. Commenting on the results, Norton said, "All the way up the income-wealth spectrum basically everyone says [they'd need] two to three times as much."[2]

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How was that sense engaged during (or before) that session? Write down the different ways these senses were engaged in prior periods of flow to give you an idea of the range of options at your disposal. Select the option for each sense that is most actionable and repeatable. If you were in a flow state while sitting at a café overlooking the Mediterranean in Positano, Italy, and sipping a twenty-euro espresso, that's probably not repeatable (if it is, please trade lives with me!).

The concept of time-blocking is simple: Windows of time are blocked to work on distinct, specific tasks. Rather than manage your life through a to-do list, you manage your life through your calendar. Time-blocking leverages the well-established psychological principle that setting an intention for your time is critical for driving progress.

Depth: Connection to a small circle of people with deep, meaningful bonds Breadth: Connection to a larger circle of people for support and belonging beyond the self, either through individual relationships or through community, religious, spiritual, or cultural infrastructure Earned status: The lasting respect, admiration, and trust of your peers that you receive on the basis of earned, not acquired, status symbols

I have a core set of deep, loving, supportive relationships. I am consistently able to be the partner, parent, family member, and friend that I would want to have. I have a network of loose relationships I can learn from and build on. I have a deep feeling of connection to a community (local, regional, national, spiritual, and so on) or to something bigger than myself. I do not attempt to achieve status, respect, or admiration through material purchases.