When you’re in the gain, you’re never measuring yourself against anything external. You’re only measuring yourself against yourself. More directly, you’re measuring

A fundamental aspect of being in the GAIN is to live your life in a self-determined way. You stop living in the GAP and measuring yourself based on ideals, but rather live based on clear measurables that you yourself have chosen.

When you’re in the GAIN, you transform your experiences. In the GAP, you compare your experiences to other people’s, and feel worse off as a result. You don’t take ownership of your experiences, but instead, you distance yourself emotionally from them, which ends up creating debilitating trauma of varying degrees.

No one can replicate you when you’re in the GAIN, because no one has the same experiences you’re having — and no one can transform your experiences into GAINS the way you do. You’ve already made it this far. Look back at where you were when you started. What are you going to do now? How far are you going to go? You get to decide that.

Being in the GAIN makes you psychologically bulletproof.

You’re in the GAP every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal.

When you focus on the GAIN, you and everyone around you are transformed.

Gain is disgraceful.

winners see the gain; losers see the pain.

No matter what occurs, frame the experience as a gain.

If you’re in the GAP and think that “happiness” and “success” are something you “pursue” and will have in your future, then you’re in trouble. You’re making yourself miserable. And just as bad, you’re actually making everyone around you miserable with your GAP-thinking. When you’re in the GAP, you see everything through your GAP-lens. Nothing is ever enough. Nothing ever will be enough. You can’t see the GAIN in yourself or others. And until you do, you’ll never be happy. Plain and simple.

An experience only becomes valuable and useful once you’ve transformed it into a GAIN.

The way to measure your progress is backward against where you started, not against your ideal.

Maybe he didn’t get the memo that God is in the GAIN, not the GAP.