All that you can see is not me,' he says to himself. But only in and through all that we do see can he be anyone (in reality). If these actions are n… - R. D. Laing

У нас есть свои тайны и свои потребности, в которых надо признаться. Мы можем вспомнить, как в детстве взрослые были способны видеть нас насквозь и какое это было достижение, когда мы, в страхе и трепете, смогли им впервые солгать! А потом сделать для самих себя открытие, что в определённых отношениях мы безнадёжно одиноки, и узнать, что на нашей собственной территории могут быть отпечатки лишь наших ног.

You don't love me.. Believe me! You don't love anyone. How could you? And no one loves you. How could they? Except me, it's only because I love you that I'm telling you all this. I Love you.. R. D. Laing.

...to forgo one's autonomy becomes the means of secretly safeguarding it; to play possum, to feign death, becomes a means of preserving one's aliveness. To turn oneself into a stone becomes a way of not being turned into a stone by someone else. 'Be thou hard,' exhorts Nietzsche. In a sense that Nietzsche did not, I believe, himself intend, to be stony hard and thus far dead forestalls the danger of being turned into a dead thing by another person. Thoroughly to understand oneself (engulf oneself) is a defense against the risk involved in being sucked into the whirlpool of another person's way to comprehending oneself. To consume oneself by one's own love prevents the possibility of being consumed by another.