the past effects people — some let it decide who they are, while others make it part of what they will do. - Eric Berne

Because ‘achievers’ have to be ‘good,’ they tend to keep their feelings under careful control, and they often suffer from ulcers or high blood pressure.

If someone frankly asks for reassurance and gets it, that is an operation. If someone asks for reassurance, and after it is given turns it in some way to the disadvantage of the giver, that is a game.

we shared a common interest in how the past effects people — some let it decide who they are, while others make it part of what they will do.