Certainly we want to protect our children from new and painful experiences that are beyond their emotional comprehension and that intensify anxiety; and to a point we can prevent premature exposure to such experiences. That is obvious. But what is just as obvious — and what is too often overlooked — is the fact that from their earliest years children live on familiar terms with disrupting emotions, fear and anxiety are an intrinsic part of their everyday lives, they continually cope with frustrations as best they can. And it is through fantasy that children achieve catharsis. It is the best means they have for taming Wild Things.

Çocuk nesneleri ayırt etmeye başlar başlamaz, kendisine gösterilenler içinde bir seçim yapması önemlidir. Tüm yeni nesneler doğal olarak insanın ilgisini çeker. İnsan kendisini o kadar zayıf hisseder ki tanımadığı her şeyden korkar: Yeni nesneleri, onlardan etkilenmeden görme alışkanlığı bu korkuyu giderir. Örümcek derdi olmayan temiz evlerde yetiştirilmiş çocuklar örümcekten korkarlar ve bu korku çoğu zaman büyüdüklerinde de geçmez. Ben örümcekten korkan, ne erkek, ne kadın ne de çocuk, hiç köylü görmedim.
Öyleyse, mademki bir çocuğa gösterilen nesnelerin yalnızca seçimi bile onu çekingen ya da cesur kılıyor, bu çocuğun eğitimi neden konuşmadan, işitmeden öncebaşlamasın ki? Onun yeni nesneler, çirkin, iğrenç, tuhaf hayvanlar görmeye alıştırılmasını istiyorum; ama bu, yavaş yavaş, uzaktan, alışıncaya kadar sürmeli; onları başkalarının ellediğini göre göre sonunda o da onları eller. Çocukluğunda kurbağa, yılan, ıstakoz görmekten korkmamışsa, büyüdüğünde, hangi hayvan olursa olsun, onu görmekten korkmayacaktır. Her gün nesneler gören bir kimse için artık korkunç nesneler yoktur.
Tüm çocuklar maskelerden korkarlar. Hoş bir yüz şeklinde bir maskeyi Émile’e göstermekle işe başlıyorum; sonra biri onun önünde bu maskeyi yüzüne takıyor: Gülmeye başlıyorum, herkes gülüyor, çocuk da ötekiler gibi gülüyor. Yavaş yavaş onu daha az hoş olan maskelere, sonunda iğrenç yüzlere alıştırıyorum. Eğer bu aşama aşama gitmeyi iyi idare etmişsem, çocuk, son maskede korkmak şöyle dursun, ilk maskede olduğu gibi buna da gülecektir. Bundan sonra artık o, maskelerle korkutulur diye kaygılanmam.

What children, in fact all of us at any age, find frightening is unreliability and emotional coldness. The idea that you can't affect someone, that you can't see where they're coming from and can change tact at any moment.

The fears of children were simpler and usually more powerful. The fears of children could often be summoned up in a single face... and if bait were needed, why, what child did not love a clown?

the world is a scary place for such a small child

. . .from their earliest years children live on familiar terms with disrupting emotions, fear and anxiety are an intrinsic part of their everyday lives, they continually cope with frustrations as best they can. And it is through fantasy that children achieve catharsis. It is the best means they have for taming Wild Things.

Lord knows what incommunicable small terrors infants go through, unknown to all. We disregard them, we say they forget, because they have not the words to make us remember.

Regret is something for little children.

As a result of this dependency, every child's greatest fear is abandonment. To children, abandonment means death. Second,

You can sit down with that fearful child inside and be gentle with him or her. You might say something like this: “Dear little child, I am your adult self. I would like to tell you that we are no longer a baby, helpless and vulnerable. We have strong hands and strong feet; we can very well defend ourselves. So there is no reason why we have to continue to be fearful anymore.

في صغري كان الكبار يبعثون في نفسي التساؤل والرهبة ، وما يدهشني الآن هم الأطفال يبكون ويصرخون .

Who among us can deny that within every adult is caged a frightened child?

Children just feel emotions and their reasoning mind doesn’t interpret or question them. This is why children accept certain people and reject other people.

If you are a parent, you will need enough courage not to interfere. Open doors of unknown directions to the child, so he can explore. He does not know what he has in him, nobody knows. He has to grope in the dark. Don’t make him afraid of darkness, don’t make him afraid of failure, don’t make him afraid of the unknown. Give him support. When he is going on an unknown journey, send him on with all your support, with all your love, with all your blessings. Don’t let him be affected by your fears. You may have fears, but keep them to yourself. Don’t unload those fears on the child because that will be interfering.