If you would be loved, be lovable

if you were to be loved be loveable

To be loved, be lovable.” — Ovid

Love, and you shall be loved.

You know, I think everybody longs to be loved, and longs to know that he or she is lovable. And, consequently, the greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they're loved and capable of loving.

Deep within us — no matter who we are — there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, of wanting to be the kind of person that others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.

But to be loving is simply this: a willingness to respond freely and openly. Right now, it may be limited to one or two people in your lives. But it is possible to extend this ability to embrace the entire world.

Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved , rather than that of loving , of one's capacity to love. Hence the problem to them is how to be loved, how to be lovable. In pursuit of this aim they follow several paths. One, which is especially used by men, is to be successful, to be as powerful and rich as the social margin of one's position permits. Another, used especially by women, is to make oneself attractive, by cultivating one's body, dress, etc. .... Many of the ways to make oneself lovable are the same as those used to make oneself successful, to 'win friends and influence people'. As a matter of fact, what most people in our culture mean by being lovable is essentially a mixture between being popular and having sex appeal.

To be loved means to be recognized as existing.

Everyone longs to be loved. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.

You wish to be liked. I wish simply to be.

Do not judge but love and be loved, if you want to be really happy.

Love is how we feel toward those who show us that which is lovable about ourselves.

Do exactly what you would do if you felt most loved and cherished.