Melody Beattie Quotes

On our worst days, we still look for something we’ve done toward recovery. Sometimes the best we can do is feel good about what we did not do.

Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn’t wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you.

You will learn to recognize when detachment is advisable. A good rule of thumb is: You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do.

The change which is upon us is not a well-kept secret in the Universe. — BRIAN LUKE SEAWARD IN THE GOOD REMEMBERING, by Lyn Roberts-Herrick

When we attempt to control people and things that we have no business controlling, we are controlled. We forfeit our power to think, feel, and act in accordance with our best interests. We frequently lose control of ourselves. Often, we are being controlled not just by people but by diseases such as alcoholism, eating disorders, and compulsive gambling.

Prayer and meditation help us affirm that our Higher Power cares for

We can confuse love with dependency, manipulation, and neediness. None of those are love. Love is when we want other people to be who they are.

"You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose."

Anger, rage, complaining, and whining are clues to boundaries we need to set.

Love and closeness often bring a sense of loss of control.

The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony.

I believe detachment can become a habitual response, in the same manner that obsessing, worrying, and controlling became habitual responses — by practice. You may not do it perfectly, but no one has. However, and at whatever pace, you practice detachment in your life, I believe it will be right for you. I hope you will be able to detach with love for the person or persons you are detaching from. I think it is better to do everything in an attitude of love. However, for a variety of reasons, we can’t always do that. If you can’t detach in love, it is my opinion that it is better to detach in anger rather than to stay attached. If we are detached, we are in a better position to work on (or through) our resentful emotions. If we’re attached, we probably won’t do anything other than stay upset.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.

It’s not what we don’t know that hurts us,” people say. “It’s what we believe is true that isn’t that does the damage.” There

Today, I will understand that I hold the key to my freedom. I will stop participating in my oppression and victimization. I will take responsibility for myself, and let others do as they may.