Nedra Glover Tawwab Quotes

Remember: there is no such thing as guilt-free boundary setting. If you want to minimize (not eliminate) guilt, change the way you think about the process. Stop thinking about boundaries as mean or wrong; start to believe that they’re a nonnegotiable part of healthy relationships, as well as a self-care and wellness practice.

Tell people what you need.

It’s true that setting boundaries isn’t easy. Paralyzing fear about how someone might respond can easily hold us back. You might play out awkward interactions in your mind and prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome. But trust me: short-term discomfort for a long-term healthy relationship is worth it every time!

Be the person you would have looked up to in childhood.

People don’t know what you want. It’s your job to make it clear. Clarity saves relationships.

The hardest thing about implementing boundaries is accepting that some people won’t like, understand, or agree with yours. Once you grow beyond pleasing others, setting your standards becomes easier. Not being liked by everyone is a small consequence when you consider the overall reward of healthier relationships.

What you're searching for in others lies within you.

understanding breeds grace.

healthy people appreciate honesty and don’t abandon us if we say no.

The most important question you need to answer is What do you want for your life? Bear in mind that what you want might not currently exist in your family.

You aren't what happened to you.

Critical thinking is a threat to unhealthy systems, and questions make people think.

Resilience is the ability to embrace what happened.

We don't naturally fall into perfect relationship; we create them

Honesty isn’t betrayal; it’s courage. Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you. People often misrepresent their relationships and experiences because they’re too afraid to admit what’s true. But denial will keep you from breaking free from your past.