Susan Cain Quotes

That was what collaboration meant for Steve Woz: the ability to share a donut and a brainwave with his laid-back, nonjudgmental, poorly dressed colleagues — who minded not a whit when he disappeared into his cubicle to get the real work done.

Some animals carry their shelter wherever they go. Some humans are just the same.

It’s just the most amazing thing to see the introvert revolution literally remaking the way we organize society — this time, the world of book clubs.

Restorative niche' is Professor Little's term for the place you go when you want to return to your true self. It can be a physical place, like the path beside the Richelieu River, or a temporal one, like the quiet breaks you plan between sales calls.

The very highest states—of awe and joy, wonder and love, meaning and creativity—emerge from this bittersweet nature of reality. We experience them not because life is perfect—but because it's not.

It was only when God paired him up with his extroverted brother Aaron that Moses agreed to take on the assignment. Moses would be the speechwriter, the behind-the-scenes guy, the Cyrano de Bergerac; Aaron would be the public face of the operation. “It will be as if he were your mouth,” said God, “and as if you were God to him.

Hayes and his colleagues have distilled these insights into seven skills for coping with loss. In more than a thousand studies over thirty-five years, they’ve found that the acquisition of this skill set predicts whether people facing loss fall into anxiety, depression, trauma, substance abuse — or whether they thrive. The first five skills involve acceptance of the bitter. First, we need to acknowledge that a loss has occurred; second, to embrace the emotions that accompany it. Instead of trying to control the pain, or to distract ourselves with food, alcohol, or work, we should simply feel our hurt, sorrow, shock, anger. Third, we need to accept all our feelings, thoughts, and memories, even the unexpected and seemingly inappropriate ones, such as liberation, laughter, and relief. Fourth, we should expect that sometimes we’ll feel overwhelmed. And fifth, we should watch out for unhelpful thoughts, such as “I should be over this,” “It’s all my fault,” and “Life is unfair.” Indeed, the ability to accept difficult emotions — not just observe them, not just breathe through them, but actually, nonjudgmentally, accept them — has been linked repeatedly to long-term thriving.

Introversion — along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness — is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.

Who could be happy in a world of podiums and microphones?

الأنطوائيون , في المقابل , ربما لديهم مهارات أجتماعية قوية ويتمتعون باللقاء في الحفلات والاعمال , لكن بعد حين يرغبون لو كانوا في قمصان النوم في بيوتهم . أنهم يفضلون تكريس طاقتهم الاجتماعية لأصدقائهم المقربين والزملاء والعائلة , أنهم ينصتون أكثر مما يتكلمون , ويفكرون قبل أن يتكلمون , و يشعرون غالباً أنهم أفضل في التعبير عن أنفسهم في الكتابة أكثر من المحادثة , وهم يكرهون الصراع , وكثير منهم يرعبهم الحوار القصير ولكن يتمتعون بالنقاشات العميقة

Amazingly, neuroscientists have even found that people who use Botox, which prevents them from making angry faces, seem to be less anger-prone than those who don’t, because the very act of frowning triggers the amygdala to process negative emotions.

Shyness is the fear of negative judgment, while introversion is simply the preference for less stimulation. Shyness is inherently uncomfortable; introversion is not. The traits do overlap, though psychologists debate to what degree.

Introverts need to trust their gut and share their ideas as powerfully as they can.

Gandhi himself ultimately rejected the phrase “passive resistance,” which he associated with weakness, preferring satyagraha, the term he coined to mean “firmness in pursuit of truth.

A shy man no doubt dreads the notice of strangers, but can hardly be said to be afraid of them. He may be as bold as a hero in battle, and yet have no self-confidence about trifles in the presence of strangers.” — Charles Darwin