Warren Farrell Quotes

From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.

Dads were user-friendly for companies, because they could most easily be used.

Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us---which is really just love for ourselves.

Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.

Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.

ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving...

The worst form anger can take is that of a parent who feels her or his chance for “winning my child” is enhanced by “ruining my ex.” The law has given the most vindictive parent an invitation to play the “abuse” card. This is the “Great Temptation.”

[T]he men who are successful have become the most dependent on success to attract love. When this man loses his success, he often fears he will lose love.

If your son is nontraditional, he needs to know that the most important work of his life is selecting a woman who is free enough from social constraints to free him from social constraints.

The more chauvinist the country, the more it protects women. And therefore the more it limits women. Like the United States, [Italy, Spain, and Denmark] give women options without obligations. These countries are, therefore, still male chauvinist… The degree to which a country is emancipated is the degree to which it frees men from the obligation to protect women and socializes women to equally protect men.

The exchange of wit-covered put-downs is boys’ and men’s unconscious way of training each other to handle the criticism it takes to become successful.

Men are still playing protector of women’s transitions, and both sexes expect only men to make transitions on their own.

Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection.

The Moynihan report concluded that in a majority-black community the main predictor of growing up poor was not race but being born to parents who are not married. Why? A predictable outcome of no marriage was no father involvement.

“The best parent is both parents” means mommy is no substitute for daddy, money is no substitute for daddy, and another man is no substitute for daddy.