Benjamin P. Hardy Quotes

Harmonious passion is related to having high levels of grit, whereas obsessive passion is not.23 If you’re obsessively passionate, you’re thinking short-term. You’re trying to force things to go your way. But you don’t truly want whatever it is you’re seeking. You just think you need it because you’re unresolved internally. Whether you get what you want or not, sooner or later you’ll shift that unhealthy need onto something else — the hedonic treadmill will continue. Similar to harmonious passion, intrinsic motivation is also related to having high levels of grit, whereas extrinsic motivation is not.24

The person I was in high school wasn’t someone I’d recommend dating or marrying either. But I wasn’t at all the same person I had been back then. I didn’t even feel like I was in the same universe.

As management author and legend Peter Drucker said, “There is nothing quite so useless, as doing with great efficiency, something that should not be done at all.” Effectiveness

Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished.

Unfortunately, when you’ve lost your confidence as a result of pleasure-seeking, it can be difficult to reach out and get social support. You’ll probably try to convince yourself that you must first kick your addiction before you can reach out to people. After all, who would want to be in a relationship with you right now? As a result, you resort to willpower in attempts of clawing your way out of your addiction, all the while remaining isolated from the very people who could help you.

Indefinite attitudes to the future explain what’s most dysfunctional in our world today. Process trumps substance: when people lack concrete plans to carry out, they use formal rules to assemble a portfolio of various options . . . A definite view, by contrast, favors firm convictions. Instead of pursuing many-sided mediocrity and calling it “wellroundedness,” a definite person determines the one best thing to do and then does it.

We make countless choices in life, some large and some seemingly small. Looking back, we can see what a great difference some of our choices made in our lives. We make better choices and decisions if we look at the alternatives and ponder where they will lead. . . . Our present and our future will be happier if we are always conscious of the future. . . . “Where will this lead?” is also important in choosing how we label or think of ourselves. . . . Don’t choose to label yourselves or think of yourselves in terms that put a limit on a goal for which you might strive.

Longitudinal research highlights that a person’s personality can often be explained by the social roles they espoused and relinquished throughout their life stages. Thus, social role is an oft-studied and tangible predictor of personality.

Your purpose isn't something you discover, but something you ultimately choose yourself. Stop looking for it and make the choice, then allow that choice to transform you.

Never ask advice of someone with whom you wouldn’t want to trade places.

When the goal is merely to “get through” the day as quickly as possible, life will pass full of regrets. Time becomes the great taskmaster when it should be the liberator. His time is endured rather than enjoyed. He is often late and constantly missing the moments that matter most — caught in the vacuum of time-acceleration toward death without any perceived way of slowing it down.

Do you randomly hammer wood together and hope a house appears, or is there intelligent design? Is a Rolex watch accidental or created? How does someone finish college, build a business, write a book, or ride a bike? Is it by design or random chance? Isn’t the goal what determines the process?

Small things — if not corrected — become big things, always.

People use the past as the excuse to remain stuck in habits and attitudes that keep them from growing.

Simply switching to home-brewed coffee will save you an average of $64.48 per month (or $2 per day) or $773.80 per year. By putting the savings into a mutual fund with average earnings of 6.5% interest and reinvesting the dividends into more mutual funds over a decade, the $64.48 saved every month would grow into $10,981.93.