In time, they also learn that boundary setting isn’t about getting other people to be different. It’s about getting themselves to be different. If so… - Robert A. Glover

He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met. •​He is comfortable with his masculinity and his sexuality. •​He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient. •​He is a leader. He is willing to provide for and protect those he cares about. •​He is clear, direct, and expressive of his feelings. •​He can be nurturing and giving without caretaking or problem-solving. •​He knows how to set boundaries and is not afraid to work through conflict.

The unpredictability of not having their needs met in a timely, judicious fashion was not only frightening, it was potentially life-threatening.

By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves. Seeking