In time, they also learn that boundary setting isn’t about getting other people to be different. It’s about getting themselves to be different. If so… - Robert A. Glover

there is plenty for everyone. Everything we need is flowing by us — all we have to do is get out of the way of our own small thinking and let it come.

Nice Guys have a difficult time comprehending that in general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy.

"In an attempt to cope with their childhood abandonment experiences, all Nice Guys developed the same paradigm: "If I am good, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life." Unfortunately, this paradigm not only produces the opposite of what is desired, it guarantees nothing but feelings of perpetual powerlessness."