First, you learn to recognize the automatic thoughts flitting through your consciousness at the times you feel worst. - Martin E P Seligman

Cuando sentimos que no tenemos control sobre nuestras circunstancias, cuando creemos que nada de lo que hagamos puede aliviar nuestro sufrimiento o mejorar nuestras vidas, dejamos de tomar iniciativas por que consideramos que no tiene sentido.

But out-of-hand anger ruins many lives. More, I believe, than schizophrenia, more than alcohol, more than AIDS. Maybe even more than depression.

After the most likely outcome is identified, they develop a plan for coping with the situation, and then practice this skill with both professional examples (a soldier has not returned from a land navigation drill; you received a negative review from a superior) and personal examples (your child is doing poorly at school, and you are not home to help; your spouse is having a hard time managing the finances while you are deployed).