Brianna Wiest Quotes

They don’t confuse a bad feeling for a bad life. They are aware of, and avoid, extrapolation, which is essentially projecting the present moment into the foreseeable future — believing that the moment at hand constitutes what your entire life amounted to, rather than just being another passing, transitory experience in the whole. Emotionally intelligent people allow themselves their “bad” days. They let themselves be fully human. It’s in this non-resistance that they find the most peace of all.

Our healed selves are not our most flawless selves. They are not immune to sadness or grief or fear. They are just not controlled by those experiences any longer. They feel sadness when it is time for sadness, and grief when it is time to grieve, and contentment on a more regular basis. They fear things that are unknown or important or both, but they do not allow that emotion to prevent them from moving forward. Life can be deeply challenging and profoundly unfair, and without the ability to move through the feelings that may accompany our experiences in real time, we often become trapped in the old stories we once wove around them.

If the fear is that we are “peaking” too soon, we have to reform our idea of progress. We do not get better only to get worse again. We do not achieve one thing only to lose it and return to what we were before. That instinct is a self-sabotaging behavior, one that wants to keep us within our old comfort zone.

Healing yourself is the most uncomfortable, disruptive, important thing you will ever do.

Maybe the kind of success you’re really hungry for is to feel at peace each day,

It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking rather than think your way into a new way of acting,

How you judge other people. What you first reach to insult someone with — especially when it’s physical — says infinitely more of you than them.

Being mean to yourself first will not make it hurt less if other people judge or reject you, though that is why you are using this defense mechanism. Thinking the worst of yourself is a way of trying to numb yourself to what you really fear, which is that someone else could say those things about you. What you don’t realize is that you’re acting as your own bully and enemy by doing it to yourself. What could someone else’s judgment realistically do to your life? Honestly, it could stop you from pursuing your dreams, ambitions, and personal happiness. And that’s exactly what you’re doing when you stay fixated on those damaging ideas. It’s time to get out of your own way.

What’s meant for you will come to you, and it will stay with you for as long as it needs to.

The next time you think “I should be okay,” I hope you will not shame yourself into silencing the very instinct within you that is shouting, you are meant for more than this.

As your body self-regulates, routine becomes the pathway to “flow

Nobody is evaluating you the way you are evaluating you.

Self-sabotage comes from
irrational fear

You are the only person who can heal yourself. Nobody else will ever be able to alleviate your burdens.