Brianna Wiest Quotes

So much of our inner turmoil is the result of conducting a life we don’t inherently desire, only because we have accepted an inner narrative of “normal” and “ideal” without ever realizing.

Confirmation One of the most commonly known biases, confirmation is what happens when we selectively listen to information that supports or proves our preconceptions of an idea or issue at hand. It’s how we mentally insulate ourselves and our worldview. It’s also how we self-validate.

A misstep isn’t the worst thing that can happen. Refusing to move forward is.

The point is not what the routine consists of, but how steady and safe your subconscious mind is made through repetitive motions and expected outcomes.

At our core, there is only light. I guarantee there is not one person you wouldn’t love if you knew their true story, their whole story, if you lived a day or a year or a lifetime in their shoes.

What if part of your destiny is also discernment, the ability to see the difference between the parts of yourself that need to be worked on, and the parts of yourself that need to be seen, embraced, and known?

Preparing for radical change One of the biggest reasons that people avoid doing important internal work is that they recognize if they heal themselves, their lives will change — sometimes drastically. If they come to terms with how unhappy they are, it means that they will have to temporarily be more uncomfortable, ashamed, or scared while they start all over.

This requires discipline. It requires vision. It requires commitment. It requires a lot of self-imposed structure. It is hard, at first. Then it becomes more freeing over time.

You do not have to be a novel; you can be a book of stories.

The next time you realize your heart is still white-hot with anger and grief, I hope you will simply allow yourself to feel that without pressuring yourself to be more at peace.

You’re putting your head in the sand. You don’t know basic facts about your life, like how much debt you have or what other people in your field are being paid for similar work. When you get into an argument, you run away until you forget rather than talking about what’s wrong and coming up with a solution. In other words, you are in denial, and so any hope of healing is futile.

The happiness of excellence is the work of emotional resilience. It’s the highest ranking on Maslow’s hierarchy. It is measured, deliberate, and consistent. It is often avoided because the discomfort is palpable, and the reward isn’t instantaneous. There’s no contact high during the first days of marathon training when your lungs are stinting and you want to vomit. But over time, you develop your skill. You begin to imagine what you could accomplish. You fall in love with the process.

Learn the difference between honesty and truth. The way you honestly feel can be different from how you truthfully feel — the former is usually temporary, the latter is deeper, and consistent.

You are going to have to get real with yourself. You are going to have to decide that you love yourself too much to stop settling for less than what you really deserve.

That, right there, is the magic of heartbreak: it forces you to be a different person. Unless you want to mourn forever, you have to change. And if you do it right, you’ll work on becoming the person you always wanted to be. You’ll look back on this moment as the pinnacle, the turning point, the unanswered prayer that was the answer itself. It will be the greatest thing that ever happened to you because instead of a lukewarm relationship that wasn’t working anyway, you got the life of your dreams… and you were the one who gave it to yourself.