Jay Shetty Quotes

the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.

Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life. — Buddha

Honor your ex for the gifts they gave you.

Revenge is the mode of ignorance — it’s often said that you can’t fix yourself by breaking someone else. Monks don’t hinge their choices and feelings on others’ behaviors. You believe revenge will make you feel better because of how the other person will react.

Happiness is feeling good about yourself, having close relationships, making the world a better place.

Make a list of five people you care about, but also feel competitive with. Come up with at least one reason that you’re envious of each one: something they’ve achieved, something they’re better at, something that’s gone well for them. Did that achievement actually take anything away from you? Now think about how it benefitted your friend. Visualize everything good that has come to them from this achievement. Would you want to take any of these things away if you could, even knowing that they would not come to you? If so, this envy is robbing you of joy. Envy is more destructive to you than whatever your friend has accomplished. Spend your energy transforming it.

We have to be careful not to confuse inexperience with weakness. Some of us live outside our dharma because we haven’t figured out what it is. It is important to experiment broadly before we reject options, and much of this experimentation is done in school and elsewhere when we’re young.

There are distractions, of course, but meditation doesn't eliminate distractions, distractions, it manages them.

No matter how much we grow, we are never free of daily chores and routines, but to be enlightened is to embrace them. The outside may look the same, but inside you are transformed.

Becoming a monk is a mindset that anyone can adopt.

We must use the time when we are single or take time alone when we are in a couple to understand ourselves, our pleasures, and our values. When we learn to love ourselves, we develop compassion, empathy, and patience. Then we can use those qualities to love someone else. In this way, being alone — not lonely, but comfortable and confident in situations where we make our own choices, follow our own lead, and reflect on our own experience — is the first step in preparing ourselves to love others.

To walk down the same old path and find a new stone is to open your mind.

If there are aspects of ourselves that we don’t like, we should do something to change them.

Write down all the noise you hear in your mind on a daily basis. Noise that you know you don’t want to have. This should not be a list of your problems. Instead, write the negative, self-defeating messages your mind is sending you, such as: You’re not good enough. You can’t do this. You don’t have the intelligence to do this. These are the times when the charioteer is asleep at the wheel.

when the fear of staying the same outweighs the fear of change, that is when we change.