Melody Beattie Quotes

Honor your passion by honoring your emotions. Feeling your emotions releases passion into life. Feel them. Feel them all. Then you will know what you like, what instills passion in you.

Medications have helped many people deal with very real symptoms of depression and anxiety — but for others, those same medications can conveniently mask the discomfort that could have pushed them to get help. Even cell phones can mask the pain behind obsessions: people don’t have to stay home and become uncomfortable waiting for him or her to call — they can bring their phone and their obsessions with them and act them out anywhere, anytime. We’ve learned to become therapeutically correct and cover our insecurity with all the right lingo.

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Detachment involves “present moment living” — living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it.

When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to say it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.

Today, I will exchange a controlled life for one that is manageable.

To be happy we need someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. I

Visualize your hands placing in God’s hands the person or problem you are concerned about.9 Visualize His hands gently and lovingly holding that person or willingly accepting that problem. Now, visualize His hands holding you. All is well for the moment. All is as it should be and as it needs to be. All will be well — better than you think.

The message carried by all the pioneers of codependency recovery was the same: Not only can we lovingly detach from other people and take care of ourselves, it is our primary responsibility in life to do that.

Learn the words: I feel. Let others say those words and learn to listen — not fix — when they do.

We are not meant to be just like anyone else.

I will take a long look at where I am today and be grateful for my place. It’s right for me now, and is preparing me for the adventure ahead. — FROM EACH DAY A NEW BEGINNING

On our worst days, we still look for something we’ve done toward recovery. Sometimes the best we can do is feel good about what we did not do.

Sometimes codependents were blamed; sometimes they were ignored; sometimes they were expected to magically shape up (an archaic attitude that has not worked with alcoholics and doesn’t help codependents either).

I still have bad days. But that’s okay. I used to have bad years. — Anonymous