This truth of suffering guides you inward and makes you wonder where the suffering begins; with proper insight it will point you to your own mental reactions. The truth of suffering may seem overwhelming and unavoidable, but it reflects your own power — it highlights the potential for real freedom and happiness.

You know you have been away from the present moment for far too long when your mind starts rehashing old grudges and gets caught up in imaginary arguments.

sometimes a person ends a good relationship because the areas they think are bad are being intensified by their personal issues that they have not dealt with properly. sometimes people break apart a home because they are unaware of their projections and are not ready to appreciate a good thing.

essentials to remember on tough days: practice patience accept what you feel do not punish yourself make sure you get good rest give yourself ample kindness accomplish smaller goals that day do things that will calm your mind a bad moment does not equal a bad life struggle can be a space for deep growth this current discomfort is not permanent before you can see someone else clearly you must first be aware that your mind will impulsively filter what it sees through the lens of your past conditioning and present emotional state

who i am is always changing, not because i am being fake but because i am always open to growth and transformation

i want a love that doesn’t break one that gives me water when i am consumed by fire one that offers me shelter when i am lost one that helps me see that the hero i am looking for is me (partners)

If you spent more time observing than reacting, you would start to notice how the absence of reaction also means the absence of tension. The absence of reaction is essentially a profound ability to let go.

The biggest improvement to your life will come from you changing yourself. Since the amount of stress you experience depends on the intensity of your reaction, the only solution that is within your control is changing yourself.

Too often, we think of healing in an external sense — we try to remove the obstacles from our lives without realizing that to make our healing long-lasting, it is more effective to address our own perception and reactions. There is nothing wrong with saying no to difficult people and putting ourselves on a better path that more substantially supports our happiness, but it would be unrealistic to expect that we can remove all difficulties from our lives.

when you see your loved ones doing wrong or walking into deeper darkness, do not follow just because of an old bond you may share you do not need to sink together you do not need to burn together you do not need to crash together even though it may be hard,

wisdom is accepting that there are things you cannot force: people change when they are ready creativity moves at its own rhythm healing does not have a time limit love blooms when things align unbinding