The optimist believes that bad events have specific causes, while good events will enhance everything he does; the pessimist believes that bad events… - Martin E P Seligman

Here are the twin premises of the inner-child recovery movement:

• Bad events in childhood exert major influence on adulthood.
• Coming to grips with those events undoes their influence.

These premises are enshrined in film and theater. The biggest psychological hit of 1991 was the film version of Pat Conroy's lyrical novel The Prince of Tides, in which Tom Wingo (Nick Nolte), an alcoholic football coach, has been fired from his job, and is cold to his wife and little girls. He and his sister were raped twenty-five years before as kids.

He tearfully confesses this to Dr. Susan Lowenstein (Barbra Streisand), a New York psychoanalyst, and thereby recovers his ability to feel, to coach, and to control his drinking. His sister, presumably, would also recover from her suicidal schizophrenia if she could only relive the rape. The audience is in tears. The audience seems to have no doubt about the premises.

But I do.

Nature has buffered out children not only physically — prepubescent children have the lowest death rate from all causes — but psychologically as well, by endowing them with hope, abundant and irrational.

Second, you learn to dispute the automatic thoughts by marshaling contrary evidence.