Success requires persistence, the ability to not give up in the face of failure. I believe that optimistic explanatory style is the key to persistenc… - Martin E P Seligman

If you want to blame your parents for your own adult problems, you are entitled to blame the genes they gave you, but you are not entitled — by any facts I know — to blame the way they treated you.

Alcoholics are, in truth, failures, and their failure is a simple failure of will. They have made bad choices, and they continue to do so every day. By calling them victims of a disease, we magically shift the burden of the problem from choice and personal control, where it belongs, to an impersonal force — disease.

While you can't control your experiences, you can control your explanations.