heaviness comes from hanging on tightly to emotions that were always meant to be ephemeral. it is not easy to let go, especially when all we know is attachment. we want things to last forever and we turn difficult moments into long-lasting pain simply because we have not learned to let go. we have not learned that the beauty of living comes from the movement of change. letting go does not mean that we forget, and it does not mean that we give up. it just means that we are not letting our present happiness be determined by things that happened in the past or by things we wish to happen in the future.

the happiest people, the ones who have successfully purified their minds of all conditioning and craving, tend to have such a strong compassion and understanding of love that their lives naturally focus on giving to others. in this giving and clarity of mind they find happiness.

happiness is not fulfilling every pleasure or getting every outcome you desire. happiness is being able to enjoy life with a peaceful mind that is not constantly craving more. it is the inner peace that comes with embracing change.

the magic happens once you accept that you can’t regulate others’ emotions or experiences that’s when you begin to live your most authentic life some people will not “get” you, but what matters is that you get you be kind, help others, and don’t forget to live for yourself

i spent most
of my life
trying to prove
to myself and others
that i had no pain
and felt no sorrow
some people hit rock bottom before
they can change themselves drastically
because at that distance they can
best see who they really want to be

sometimes we don’t see our hopes and expectations for the ones closest to us as conditional forms of love, because we perceive what we want for them as “good.” unknowingly, in our wanting of what is “best” for them we limit our ability to give them the finest and most powerful form of love, a selfless love that empowers them to decide for themselves what is best for their lives.

sometimes we feel like exploding — not because of anything or to hurt anyone but simply because we are growing, releasing, letting the old parts die, so that new habits, new ways of being, have space to live (shedding)